By Carla B.
Stand Up, Stand Tall & Stop Bullying
Unless you’ve directly experienced bullying, you may not realize just how devastating it can be, especially to a child or teenager. As well as being deeply hurtful, bullying can leave anyone feeling frightened, angry, depressed, and totally undermined. All this being said, bullying should never be tolerated. Whether you’re the one being bullied, or you’re a teacher or parent who thinks their child is being bullied or engaged in bullying behavior, there are things you can do to keep yourself and the kids you know safe from bullying. See tips below.
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A long lost nugget – Bullying Poem
As I was purging old files– cleaning my hard-drive I found a poem I wrote back in 2005 (see below) — I recited this one on many occasions, back in the day at the Apache Cafe in Atlanta. It was written as inspiration for myself; my children, your son, daughter, friend, niece, nephew, sister, uncle, brother, cousin, mother, father – anyone or quite possibly, even some grandmothers child that may be in need of encouraging words to get through this devastating stage. It saddens me to admit, 10 years later — unfortunately, the act of bullying is still very much in the forefront of America. However, we can get past this….with love… cause love is all we really need.
This is for the strong — this is for those who were never considered to be on the homecoming court or prom. For the geeks, dreamers, the retards, freaks and less than strong. Yes, for the rejects — even the preps that wanted to be on their own — because in every popular clique there was a reject too — someone who tried to challenge the rest of the preps, even when it wasn’t cool. That one, that would make fun of everyone equally even you — but in the end after all the rest left, they would talk to you …through the day, they would say: “hey are you okay,” after all the other kids that were cracking on you walked away. Cause it’s hard to be the bigger of the two — it’s hard to stand up to the many, when you are a part of the few.
To those with the shyness and mild mannered tone. The ones that locked themselves in their rooms to try and find their souls — for all those that couldn’t run home, when they were placed in a corner with multiple peers surrounding them — making fun of their clothes, their hair and style. I’m here to tell you that you didn’t have to be them. You don’t have to be them. I said: you don’t have to be them. Understand, that in you… there is greatness. Regardless of all the snide remarks and talking behind your back — realize that after being attacked — you can still make a comeback. Because you can stand. When those kids try to force you to sit down — You can withstand with your spirit, you can pick yourself up off the ground. You can stand! You can be the bigger one. Forgive those who were riding you. This is for all the kids that never fit in — who were plastered with labels and never wanted to be in the boxes that everyone else trapped themselves in. This is for the little boys and girls — lost in the bodies of grown ass women and men — who have the same bullies in their bosses, relationships, and in their friends. This is for all of you and all of them. Cause see — adults aren’t far from where all of you have been. We still have the same frustrations, ill-wills and broken dreams.
We so called grown-ups try to hide behind our shiny jobs and shiny things – but every once in awhile we remember what it was like — we remember that we didn’t always agree with what the teacher said was right — and we would fight. So when I sit at my desk — and there seems to be no end in sight — I think of you all…for this is for all of you — and understand that you don’t have to be them. I said: YOU don’t have to be them. You didn’t have to be them. You can stand. Yes, YOU can still stand!
- Look at the kid bullying you and tell him or her to stop in a calm, clear voice. You can also try to laugh it off. This works best if joking is easy for you. It could catch the kid bullying you off guard.
- If speaking up seems too hard or not safe, walk away and stay away. Find an adult to stop the bullying on the spot!
There are many more steps you can take to deal with this issue. If you or someone you know is being bullied, feels suicidal amidst it all, please call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) in the U.S., or visit IASP or Suicide.org to find a helpline in your area.
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